Confidence Brings Out Beauty

 It's funny how we can idealize people, it's not good to do that to them. When we place someone high on a pedestal we set them up for failure. No one's perfect.

Not even my David, although people may think that I feel he is from my posts. He's not, he'd be the first person to tell anyone that he's not perfect. I had him up so high that I never believed I was even worthy of him, I felt like I was lucky that he paid any attention to me at all.

Wow, I really felt so little about myself, I truly deserved David as much as he deserved me. I am as wonderful as he says I am. I told him last night that I was taking him off the pedestal, I said he was relieved that I finally could see him as he is, which I think is a wonderful, kind and loving man who isn't perfect but still pretty wonderful.

My feelings towards David were similar to the characters of Ross and Rachel from the show Friends. Ross had the same insecurities about Rachel and he had her on a pedestal for many years. When he finally took her down and realized she was just a human being, albeit wonderful in his eyes; they ended up having that open and loving relationship. Although it was only a show, it depicted my thoughts that I had about David.


I'm grateful that I finally realized I am special and I deserve to be loved completely. David's my equal, I won't forget that ever again.


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  1. Hello Launna:
    It is so important that you, as an individual, value yourself, have confidence and self esteem for you are of as much value and worth as the next person. This we strongly believe, as should you.

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    1. Thank you Jane and Lance, I really appreciate all your comments :)

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  2. yes
    we are all special
    and it's good when we realize it
    X)

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    1. Thank you Sayid, it is wonderful when we finally realize it; I never really knew until David came back into my life:)

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  3. We are beautiful no matter what everybody else says, and we need to be loved by somebody :)

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    1. You are right Sunshine, the truth is that all we really want is to be seen, heard and loved for who we are:)

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  4. I love Friends, I believe I watched them for at least 10 times! And even if it's just a show, it's also inspired from reality.

    Taking David off the pedestal is probably the best decision ever as it helps you climb up on your own pedestal. That's very uplifting for one's morale and attitude towards themselves.
    Good job, dear Launna!

    Hugs

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    1. 'Friends' was one of my all time favorite shows, I loved it and Ross and Rachel were my favorite characters, I love how they evolved.

      Thank you Petro, not sure I want to be on a pedestal but at least I took David off the one I had him on, that was the only fair thing to do for him.:)

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  5. Yes, Launna is so special about David!
    I hope, dear, one day a gentleman not only see that I'm special, but who wants to be with me until death do us part. ;))

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    1. Yes Jaqueline, I am sure you will find that special someone, you are so incredible as a woman, a man would be lucky to be with you:)

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    2. No worries Jaqueline, you are a very special lady... your poetry says it all:)

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  6. Thank you so much for ALL of your lovely comments!! ♥

    And yes, lay in the grass on a sunny day and look in the sky - one of the best things <3
    Oh yeah, I think I can see the Duck, too :D

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    1. Your welcome Sunny, I love your blog, it is always uplifting :)

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  7. Wonderful insight my friend! Isn't it so true that as soon as we accept ourselves for who we really are - flaws, warts & all - that we can truly accept that others have the same but we can still love them? Perfect for you isn't the same as perfect & it sounds like you're understanding the distinction :-) Nice!

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    1. Jenn, you are so right, perfect for me does not mean perfect... David is wonderful, amazing, loving and so kind but he's not perfect but he is perfect for me :) No one else made me feel I was worth it, I couldn't imagine my life without him. Our path has taken us in and out of each others lives, one day we will be on that path together, I just have to believe :)

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