Intimacy is from the word INNERMOST and relates to a sharing of one's inner thoughts, feelings and self
I have been pondering what intimacy is to me, one of the dictionary meanings I read was as follows: a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person. I agree with this definition to some degree, other definitions say intimacy is sexual, I don't really believe that true intimacy is sexual at all. I think it when you know a person and when you allow them to really know you.
I believe that when you really let someone see your inner soul, the real you, that is when you have true intimacy. This is difficult, mainly because of the fear of rejection and the fear that you will be ridiculed. I never had that true intimacy with another person until I had that with David. I guess that is why it is difficult for me when our relationship didn't work out the way that I expected or knew that it should. Do I wish that I had not shared myself so openly with him? No!
He may not see that I am the best woman for him now, his loss as I am amazing, lol. One day he will know that I am the best woman for him, just not sure if it will be too late for him to make it okay and not have regrets. I say this as I believe what we have to be true and honest intimacy, the kind where we will always be close to each other, I don't regret being so intimate with David, we will always be that close to each other, no matter where the future leads.
True intimacy has respect, love, honesty, kindness, gentleness, courage and many other wonderful qualities. I wish all people would have at least one person in their life that they would feel this close to, this open with. Someone that they can be totally real with. It is an amazing feeling that I hold close to my heart and my soul.
"Everything you want, also wants you" ~ Jack Canfield
Hello Launna:
ReplyDeleteA most interesting post in which you explore the very nature and meaning of 'intimacy'. It is probable, as you suggest, that no two people will necessarily come to the same conclusion about what is meant by the word. But always, in any relationship, there is a need for honesty.
Thank you Jane and Lance for your comment, you are right that no two people will come to the same conclusion, this is mine, I feel that true intimacy is being honest, open and loving with each other:)
DeleteThanks for your kind comment on my blog. When you have lost intimacy with a person it isn't always easy to recapture it. This is especially true if you lost faith with each other. Making a relationship work, which isn't always easy.
ReplyDeleteYes Katharine, making a relationship work is not easy but there are ones that we have in our lives that are really worth all the extra work. Thank you so much for commenting on my blog:)
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ReplyDeleteI never so many details about intimacy but I always thought the same, intimacy has not much in common with sex. Unfortunately men don't think the same. Well...almost all men :)
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You are right Petro, most men don't really know what intimacy is but they are the ones who need it the most:)
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DeleteI wholeheartedly agree with everything you just said. true intimacy isn't sexual in my opinion, and I feel a little sad for those that use sex as a way to try and achieve intimacy. Knowing someone for who they are, for their likes and dislikes and their thoughts and passions means so much more.
ReplyDeleteI hope David realises what he is missing. Or that you find true intimacy with someone that understands how lucky they are to have you! xx
Thank you Charlotte, I think David will realize it eventually, I just hope it is in time... I am sure he will regret it when he finally realizes it. No two people are closer than he and I, we tell each other everything and no judging one another either.
DeleteSure true intimacy can't be justified with simply sex!! Hope ur David realize what he should!!
ReplyDeleteMy David will realize ti, I just hope it's not too late for him:)
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