After I posted last night, I realized that it was my 500th post... When I started writing this is July 2009, I knew very little about blogging... I had started writing so that I could release some of the pain of the rape I endured from my ex. I could close my eyes at the time and replay the night over and over... going through denial, sadness, anger... I went through it all. When the rape happened, I told very few people, I did see my doctor but I didn't do anything about it because I had allowed him in when he was not supposed to be in my home.
Part of me blamed myself for not seeing what he was capable of, I always had my eyes shut tight when it came to him... the blog came about once I finally laid charges a year later. Once I had him put away, I started to deal with the rape, not always in the best ways... It was a long hard road, right into the court room where his lawyer tried to portray me as a whore that begged him and offered him money. I remember thinking to myself in that moment, if he just knew that I never really liked being with him...
Once I was away from him long enough to get myself back... where I could see all the detrimental things he said to me were only his thoughts, they were not who I was. Writing my blog over the years helped me to understand how I had come into that relationship and why I stayed... I didn't believe in me, I do now... I would never tolerate that attitude in my life again. Especially not after having my David in my life, I only expect the best... My 'D' showed me I deserved nothing but the best.
I didn't just want to survive the rape, I wanted to come out better on the other side. Showing Andrey that he couldn't break me, he tried but he didn't succeed.... I wanted to do this process with forgiveness because I knew that without forgiving him I would be forever tied to him and that night. I learned a lot about myself after that night, I am stronger than I ever believed, I am worthy... I deserve my dreams and even though I made mistakes, I deserve forgiveness.
I have long believed that forgiving people was the only way to be free, what I learned from all this was that I needed to forgive myself the most.
I cherish my past, I accept my present and I dream for my future ♥
Congrats on your 500th post!!! :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Keith... I thought it would take me ten years and it took less than four :-)
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing everything you have. I know your posts have made me smile and I am positive they've helped a lot of others along the way, too.
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Lulu
Breakfast After 10
Thank you LuLu... I really appreciate what you said <3
ReplyDeleteOh Launna..I can soo relate to what you said. I started blogging too in 2009 as a way to deal with having been raped also. We are on similiar journey's. Sending you a ton of hugs this morning and wishing you an amazing day.
ReplyDeleteI love how beautifully you told your "blogging tale" ! :) You're awesome blogger! :)
ReplyDeleteThank you Nikki... we really are on similar paths... I'n grateful for my blog and my blogging friends;-)
ReplyDeleteThank you Susanna... you are an awesome blogger too;-)
ReplyDeleteYour honesty is beyond compare. This is a very confronting topic and not many people discuss it so this is good to get it said. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteThank you Lesley... I know of no other way to be... the more we talk, the quicker we can heal....
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