Anyhow, I kept the mood up all day, right into getting Valentina off to bed. Then I sat down to think about it and process it... I decided that I can continue to be angry about it and let it bother me or I can let it go and move on... I want to let it go... otherwise I won't be able to continue the friendship and that would disappoint me more. I can let go of my hurt feelings, I know that none of it was intentional, it all hurts the same though.
I think our society has lost the art of conversation because of chat and texting, although I love these methods, nothing beats sitting with a friend talking on the phone or in the same room. I am sure that if I was in the same room with that friend or on the phone, I would have come away from the conversation feeling a whole lot better.
It's because the situation would have been dealt with immediately and we would have ended everything off with laughter... instead I went to bed perturbed and carried it through to today, actually adding to it by adding other things the person said before, trying to justify my mood... Unfortunately I realized or knew that there is nothing that can justify my mood. Just because someone says something hurtful, whether they meant to or not, does not mean that I should pass that on.
Here I am chatting with my friend again tonight, everything is fine... they honestly have no clue. I am going to be a lot more careful what I put in a chat or text, I don't want someone upset with me for something I didn't mean to infer... If anything like this happens in the future, I will make the decision to move on before I go to sleep.. then I won't waste so much time being angry at nothing.
Yes chat and texting has reduced some of the need of having a healthy discussion. People are not selective of sentences any more. It is just abreviations.
ReplyDeleteGoing to bed angry is not good, but we are all humans. We do that sometimes.
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i hate anger actually..but sometimes its beyond our control.thats y everytime i come to it i try to tell myself nothing better come when u keep anger.so avoid anger and cheerful ur life... ^____^
ReplyDeleteThank you Munir... I appreciate the offer, I am actually doing good... most times I just need to vent a little and then I am fine;)
ReplyDeleteThank you Wawa... I try to avoid anger too... it never helps me in the long run;)
ReplyDeleteIt has taken me a long time to shake being one of those people who needs the last word. That was my biggest issue, I could never let things go. Now I have decided I can go to bed, even if people on the Internet are wrong, and let it go. I know it is different with a friend though. If I valued the friendship and could not let it go I think a face to face may be needed. Feel better:)
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Thank you Jamie... I'm going to let this one go... I'll bring it up if it bothers me :/
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Thank you Inge... if only it could burn calories :P
ReplyDeleteOh my gosh, yes, I have had this happen so many times. When chatting or texting, we miss the cues from the tone and inflections of someone's voice and we miss their body language. As a result, we also miss their intentions. I can think of several times there have been misunderstandings between me and friends because of this. I really try to give people the benefit of the doubt and try not to feel hurt or upset when this happens, but I'm not always successful. And later I realize that clearly the other person has no clue of how I felt.
ReplyDeleteThank you Daisy... I couldn't agree with you more... I am trying to give the benefit of the doubt as well.... not so easy... but my friends are important :-D
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