Starting Over

“Sometimes the hardest part isn't letting go but rather learning to start over.”   Nicole Sobon

I heard this quote at the end of a show I watched a couple of nights ago and I was looking for the author before I could write about it.  I finally found the author on Good Reads and liked it there immediately. I liked this quote because learning to start over is so much harder than letting go.  I am grateful that there is an acknowledgement of this in this quote

I am fabulous at holding on, I am very tenacious... I rarely let go because I often wonder if I can make the next dream I have even better than the last.  What if nothing else ever measured up to the dream you're trying to let go of?  What if there is only mediocrity?   I have to remind myself that I am anything if mediocre... I highly doubt that anything I was involved with would be boring. 

I want someone who can l laugh just as much as I do, I think if you have a lot of laughter in your relationship then you are better able to handle the lows that inevitably come along.  I think after being with Andrey who had absolutely NO sense of humor that I would be unwilling to settle for anything but the complete opposite. Having a sense of humor is a deal breaker for me, plus I think it keeps you young.  

I have been seeing the other side of learning to start over and although I know it is going to be difficult, I plan to start over.  I have set some of the ideas into motion, the plan to get healthy, the plan to move up in my career and then hopefully I allow myself to start over and find love.  I seriously wouldn't want to see myself alone, I have too much to offer and I am a lot of fun.  Sometimes I wish I had learned the art of letting go, like some people I see...  I don't know how they do it so easily but I would love to learn that some day. 



 I cherish my past, I accept my present and I dream for my future
  

14 comments :

  1. True, everything you say is true and I agree. But... I dont know if it is because im too young right now, but even if I a have a mediocre relationship i can still rescue something really important: the fact of knowing yourself more. I've been through this and when it eventualy ends and im very sad and all that stuff, i found myself and i start to meet me, and this is reflected in all my writings that a trully love and I wouldnt be able to write if i didnt have some mediocre crushes/loves/relationships. Writing reminds you who you are. There's always a good side everywhere, even in hell.

    Greetings! Be happy!

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  2. Thank you for your comment Jose... I think all relationships can bring great learning opportunities and all of this can make you a better writer but it will also make you want more than mediocre in the future ;)

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  3. You're right...laughter is SO important in a relationship. I have to be able to be silly with the person I'm with...to be able to laugh at anything and everything. It's truly the best medicine.

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  4. Thank you Keith.. I totally believe in laughter in a relationship :-D

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  5. It's not easy to let go, Launna.
    I was married twice and both times it was hard, live as if every single time, a piece of me had gone along.
    Start is complicated, but not impossible.
    I'm trying for years, and one day I will.
    :)

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  6. Thank you Jaqueline... change is never easy... ;-)

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  7. It isn't always easy letting go & starting over but after a while if you accept that the change has to happen you'll find yourself enjoying it so much more. I wish you all the luck in the world as you make all the changes you want to make while you pursue love & career and even more fun!

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  8. amazing words! such a beautiful post!

    xx

    Laura

    http://www.pursesandi.net

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  9. Thank you Jenn... sometimes those changes are so hard even if it's better in the long run.... :/

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  10. Thank you for the sweet words Laura :-D

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  11. I think having a sense of humor in a relationship is vital too. I don't know how some people get by that don't know how to laugh. They must be miserable.

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  12. Thank you Daisy and yes Andrey was miserable:/

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  13. You are absolutely right--without humor, a relationship can grow stale---it is worth taking your time to find the right person to share your life with--even if it does take awhile---because the laughter will keep you young and happy!

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  14. Haha, thanks Marcia... you are prime example of staying young ;)

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