I have had a very emotional ride the last few days... truthfully if I am being honest I have had an emotional ride for a long time. I read a blog the other day that made me think about how many of us portray ourselves a certain way to the public and where things are much different privately. I feel like I am a pretty honest and open person but sometimes I hold back because I think most people don't want to hear the sad things because they have their own problems and they just want to hear uplifting and happy things.
I can understand not wanting to hear sad things all the time, I personally don't want to be around negativity all the time... however; sometimes we need to be able to say how things really are.... last week someone told me that I seemed much happier than I used to be... I looked them in the eyes and told them the truth, no... I am not any happier than I was... I couldn't keep pretending because the truth is that I am sad a lot of the time.
I can understand not wanting to hear sad things all the time, I personally don't want to be around negativity all the time... however; sometimes we need to be able to say how things really are.... last week someone told me that I seemed much happier than I used to be... I looked them in the eyes and told them the truth, no... I am not any happier than I was... I couldn't keep pretending because the truth is that I am sad a lot of the time.
However; I explained to them as I am going to explain to you... I have been sad for a very long time and for most of that time I looked outside of myself for ways to heal the sadness... I wanted to feel better, I wanted to be happy again because I do remember what it was like to be happy and full of joy... In the last few months I am no longer looking outside of myself ... I have been looking within... So, yes I may not be as happy as I want or feel the joy I know I am capable of feeling but I do feel like I am on the right path.
I feel like I have a much better chance of feeling joy and happiness where I am at now as to where I was at before... I know that I have many people that care about me... I definitely feel that but on my sad days or disappointing days I have a hard time even seeing that... Having a strong foundation of friends is not always enough sometimes, I know that I have to have a strong foundation within myself ... no one can truly make me happy, it has to come from within myself.
That is why I finally decided to stop looking outside of myself to heal me... it wasn't working, it never truly did, it was just a bandage to cover the pain. So, although I am still sad a lot of the time, I am no longer looking for a bandage to cover the pain, I am searching for why I feel like this and looking for ways to heal myself from the inside out...
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I totally feel your pain, felt like that a few times in my life.
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same goes here with me Launna but you know just this morning when I woke up I told myself that I shouldn't let emotional destruction pull me back and hinder me again from moving forward. It's really crazy when you let those little creatures of destruction sweep you. I don't want to regret that things I never did anymore. So we should try to focus =) thanks for the visit new post on the blog =) http://anotsosecretlife2011.blogspot.com/
ReplyDeleteIts good to read your post. Thus I have to do my own reflecting of the week. You do wake me up to think about certain outcomes with work and friends and family. Hope you have a wonderful June! and great summer!
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ReplyDeleteAll the best. I loved this post, yeah we have to heal ourselves from inside first.
I hear you xoxo
ReplyDeleteYour words ooze out the pain of your heart. I guess the greatest happiness/ joy resides deep inside us only and with the help of god we can find it again.
ReplyDeleteThis is another inspirational post, Launna. Everybody's life is full of ups and downs and definitely u r not alone in this. I am glad that you have finally discovered the secrets of healing yourself from within. Well, that makes a lot of sense. The happiness should come from within, as Shakespeare in his play "Hamlet" has said that there's nothing good or bad but only thinking makes it so... You have got such a positive outlook. I love your writing.
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I loved this post Launna u just spoke what I always feel.. That is the truth ppl do not want to hear yr sad stories in public and everyone wants to feel happy although there is nothing wrong in feeling melancholy.. I have never been happy all my life but then you have to find small ways to be happy and you can find it anything.. All I do is pray to God to give me the strength to bear hardships and hope good days to come around.. wish u a lovely week ahead xoxo ♥
ReplyDeleteDear Launna, you are so strong. You will be happy as ever, I'm certain.
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We always have find the way to be happy.... I wish you all the best Launna and thanks for another inspirational post my sweet friend!
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Launna, I speak peace and happiness into your heart. You will heal. I really enjoyed this post, you're a strong woman.
ReplyDeleteI love how you draw strength from pain Launna, take care of yourself, you're amazing.
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I hope you are having a good day today! It is so true that we normally only show the positive through our blogs.
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Sounds like you have found the right approach, Launna. *hugs*
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you always have the best quotes and perspective! Have a great week!
ReplyDeleteThat is not a good feeling. I do feel sad many times having my loved ones so far away from me, but the cure is to meditate God's goodness and count all my blessings and see the positive sides of life. I pray that you get better my friend:)
ReplyDeleteLaunna,
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to learn you are still feeling down...but glad to read that you see happiness as attainable. You will get there. I think you are there... just reach up and grab it! It's yours.
Did you know happiness isn't simply a moment about a day? To be truly happy, it must be a lifestyle commitment. (I heard a quote along those lines the other day... I like that... I want a lifestyle of happiness too. An everyday!)
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I definitely agree with you, dear Luanna: you should search happiness inside ourselves, not outside!
ReplyDeleteI know many people that have really everything you could buy but often are very bored and sad and angry, don't know why...
Of course bad days still happen to everybody, it's normal, but I think there is always a good side even in the worst situation if we change point of view!
I really hope you'll back very happy soon! :)
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I perfectly agree with you, Launna, we should try sometimes to say openly what we feel. But you know so well that we fear when people react taking distance or are cold because don't want to read negative painful thoughts.
ReplyDeleteSo,what should we do? Read you great, healing blog, Launna!
I wish you a lovely week ahead :)))
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Hi, my dear Launna. I'm so sorry to hear that you were feeling sad lately. And I'm even more sorry to hear that you weren't letting it out "publicly". I think you are making the right move by examining why you feel that way, once you realize what's causing you pain there's a big chance you can get rid of it, at least almost completely. Maybe your idea of meditating comes in the perfect time, right? I truly hope you start feeling better soon, Launna :) <3
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I hope you find the healing you desire. Xo
ReplyDeleteYou are in my prayers and thoughts, Launna. Sending you a warm hug and much love.
ReplyDelete**waves** Hey mami....You know, I totally understand how you feel...You know, I am very good at compartmentalizing my emotions...I keep alot of my pain inside me and you would never see it. I try to smile alot...however, if you misinterpret my smile for me being happy alot then that's great! If you are able to see past the smile and figure out the amount of pain I have buried deep within, even better! Last week had to be the saddest week for me in a very long time. I suffered a great loss and I toughened it up after some days...I had to find peace within. I couldn't look to my husband for happiness or peace because he was hurting too...so we both had to go digging and so far so good. So yeah, I agree with you...look within for peace and you will find it. I wish you the best in this journey you are embarking on mami....and if you need to talk to anyone bout just bout anything...you can shoot me a mail (ernieshatibs@gmail.com) Experience has taught me that it is easier to talk to a complete stranger than a friend...
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I totally feel your pain, felt like that a few times in my life.
ReplyDeleteHang in there beautiful lady, you are a wonderful person! ♥
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Great Post ,Amen! i believe you are on the right Way Launna ,you are a wonderful Woman <3
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ReplyDeleteThis happens with me too, I too connect with a part of myself which know how to heal as life teches us to heal our own wounds!! Lovely write up my dear Launna :)
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Good for you, Launna, that you have the courage to seek the why. We all get disappointed in life at times - for sure. Even when you work so hard on something for it to be a total failure - it is tough to pick up the pieces and try again. I know I feel that way sometimes. But, there is little alternative as you can be so surprised at the good things that await right around the bend. Hats off to you, Launna!
ReplyDeleteRight now I really need your inspiring words Launna..love :)
ReplyDeleteHealing from the inside out is the best way, I think. It can be painful and sad sometimes, but if you rely on yourself instead of others to find a solution, you are a lot better off. Nice post.
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Hello my sweet Launna,
ReplyDeleteyesterday I'd family problems and I didn't read your post.
I understand you perfectly. It often happens to have sad days. But I seek the strength to react in beautiful things. You are a beautiful person and a strong woman, you have not to stop dreaming.
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What a very honest post. I think it is wonderful that you are acknowledging that you are not any happier most of the time right now, but that you trying to get there based on the internal work you are doing. You are doing a lot of thinking and working towards your goals. Doing those things doesn't make us happier right away, but it does make us stronger and sometimes we find happiness sneaks up on us when we are doing so much work. :) Good luck! Have a wonderful day.
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Good for you, lady! Sometimes we can get help when we look outside ourselves but usually we need to see what is bothering us INSIDE to figure out how to fix it. Props to you for putting it all out there for everyone to see. Prayers and <3 sent your way.
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It's okay to be sad sometimes. Just remember that sadness doesn't last forever and one day things will be great cause you are great dear Launna. Have a great day! <3
ReplyDeleteDefinitely a real analogy that sometimes you need to remove the bandage to let the real healing begin. That's a great way of facing this head on. Good for you!
ReplyDeleteLaunna:). We're home safely with 14 hours driving I'm super tired on top of working and unpacking as same as decorating our house at the same time. Pee you:) I can easily pass outs anywhere Lol. I will be posting as soon as I settled down:). Miss you too dear Launna.
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I'm so sorry that you've been feeling so sad. The fact that you are acknowledging the sadness and working towards happiness means there are better days ahead. Thanks for being so honest and sharing your feelings. I hope you have a good week!
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Brighter days will come your way because your awareness is growing, and that is so necessary to evolve. I think focusing on positivity is helpful rather than staying stuck in the past. From my experiences acknowledging ones struggles is key, moving on is harder but neccessary for happiness to come your way. Keep moving on, and doing the things you love. Happiness is right around the corner!
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So true!!! From the inside out. Always lovely to read your honest words. Hugs!!!💖😇
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you,sometimesits hard to open up to others on what we are going through.
ReplyDeleteI hope that you find happiness soon dear
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Great deep thoughts, Launna! I guess, sometimes we have had to live two different lives- one for our self, and one for others (public, friends, family, internet etc). All we need to understand that healing can only happen from within. We have some hidden strengths to overcome sorrows and problems. I am sure if we try our best-in a positive way-healing is sure to happen; though it sometimes takes unexpected time. But I am sure you, I and all of us will win our battles!
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It's a big for you to start healing from the inside out. You will get there dear Launna, it doesn't matter how long it takes but you will definitely get there.
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I wish you all the best Launna. Stay optimistic ;)
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This is so true! You honestly can't look for healing outside of yourself. Yes there are temporary things that make you happy for a short time, but if you haven't fixed your own deep issues, those temporary highs wont last long. I'm glad you realised and understand that it truly comes from within and self acceptance.
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I agree with you. And it's a relief that things change constantly and nothing is forever
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Happiness does come from within - and it is sometimes quite hard to fully realise and appreciate this.
ReplyDeleteAs we go on our journey each day, we do all strive for this inner feeling.
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Inspirational post, thank you. I needed to read this today morning.
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Happy friday sweet Launna
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You hit it so right on Launna...we can only heal from the inside out not outside in. I discovered that too. Hugs and wishes for an amazing day out there.
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Is difficult to explain why you are sad even apparently are no reasons but can happen. Music, silence, intimacy, hiking, the sea are some of my needs, the keys for inside peace and joy, you will find the way, in time. We all need time.
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Profound, kiddo. You're right. True emotional healing can only come from within. On the other hand, I've always been a "put on a happy face" kinda person. Although I came from a dysfunctional family with lots of serious issues, it made me very proud to see how many people wrote something in my high school yearbook about me being the girl who always had a smile on her face. That's the person I wanted to be, so I embraced a happy-go-lucky persona. You know, fake it until you feel it. Now, I don't have to fake it. It's real.
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I think we have all felt that way at times. I believe that being honest with yourself and others is the only way to truly address it. I hope you find the happiness you deserve soon keep working on it!
ReplyDeleteIt is good that you are finding a part of yourself that knows how to heal. Have a great weekend dear!
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Wise words, my friend. We can only find true happiness within ourselves. No one else is responsible for finding it for us <3
ReplyDeleteI admire your tenacity and the way you take the time to look within yourself. You will find what you are looking for.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree! You always seem to know how to write these feelings and emotions down. You really are an inspirational person!
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Thanks a lot Launna for leaving such a sweet comment and for your encouraging words on my last post! :)
ReplyDeleteDear Launna,
ReplyDeleteit has been a very hot day in Italy, but the great sun helped me feel better. I hope you're having better days, you're always in my heart, Launna :)
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Amazing and thank you so much for your support!! I deeply appreciate it ;)
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Enjoy the rest of your weekend Launna. <3
ReplyDeleteHello Launna, Baby steps first. I feel that it is great that at least you know that happiness must come from within you. Once you could identify that, you could work towards that. I like your analogy of the outside happiness being merely a bandage to cover and hide the pain and wounds.
ReplyDeleteIt is true that people would usually portray themselves in a certain way on the Internet and how it is really like privately. Of course people like to be bright and cheery and positive. I personally do not like to see posts from FB friends that dwell on negativity all the time. It's perfectly fine if someone shares their sadness, anger or negative emotions every now and then coz we are all only humans, just not too much. I have someone on my FB who is so negative it saps the energy off me. On another plane which deals differently from positivity and negativity are the people who always portray themselves as good, happy, well-off and simply so enviable. There is this quote "Stop comparing your behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel." We wouldn't know what's going on behind their scenes.
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Hello my dear Launna. I so so so agree with you. You know, we all are wearing a mask. And it's only appropriate because we do not want to seem vulnerable to others, we do not want others to exploit us, you know what i mean? This world can be a really terrible place filled with terrible people. And let's get real...when we are sad, 90% of the people ask because they're curious, and 10% ask because they're genuinely caring.
ReplyDeleteSo I do not blame you for hiding. But, you're doing the right thing by opening up.. (it contradicts what I am saying) but sometimes, it lightens the burden :)
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Ah, Launna! I am sorry for hearing that. It is never nice when you are in an emotional ride. I can imagine that you hold back sometimes. But it is good to open up! You will feel better after that and other people can get to know you more. I prefer want to know how my best friend really feels, then that I don't know anything about it. So Launna it is good to open up! Also when it comes to emotional things. Hope that you feeling better dear!
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Hi Launna - I feel you are so honest in your posts too and definitely more real than most people share so I really hope your days of sadness slowly start turning into happier times and it was good you're able to talk to your friend about it in person. It's very brave of you to talk about what you're going through also and about healing from the inside out because it's so easy to put on a perfect picture (especially online). Keep taking it one day at a time.
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Launna...I can relate to this post in so many ways. I get what you mean about holding back how I really feel...I don't like to complain or sound sad, because it makes me feel ungrateful that I'm worrying while so many people have it worse than I do.
ReplyDeletePeople always describe me as "welcoming, empathetic, and positive"...honestly, sometimes friends even tell me that the fact that I'm happy all the time is annoying. I guess the reason I behave that way is that I know people always have it worse, and I like to make the light of the situation...but it gets tiring after a while. It's true that we all need to open up, and after a while I feel like I can never be able to do that. So many people rely on me to talk about their issues, and I feel like I can't act like I'm sad. Besides, I know negativity isn't a good thing, so I don't like to speak it. But putting on a smile all the time doesn't make it better for me, inside.
Hopefully I can do the same as you--to stop looking on the outside and heal from within. Best of luck and lots of love. <3