Have you ever sat down to write something and been certain what you wanted to say, only to find that while you are trying to write something, it keeps going in another direction? This rarely happens to me as I get an idea, I start to write and it just comes out. Of course there are times it is more clear then others but I rarely struggle to get my point across. Tonight I struggled, I wrote a whole post and after I finished I read it and it was the most disjointed writing I have done in a long time. Usually I have one idea, this time I had two different ones that didn't really work with each other if that makes any sense?
Instead I felt the need to write about challenges, last week I wrote about how I was finally ready to forgive a woman who I don't even know personally that has gone out of her way to hurt me in any way she could through lies... truly forgiving her has helped me a great deal this week... when I thought about her, normally I would become angry and frustrated, this week I took her for what she was an insecure woman who has no trust, I actually felt sorry for her and I had pity.. how sad must it be that she isn't happy enough with herself that she feels the need to bring other people down?
Although I have a long road ahead of me, I am now on the right path... it bothered me that I had such difficulty getting passed the feelings I had for her when I have forgiven many people in my life that have hurt me a great deal... I intellectually understood that true forgiveness is really to free ourselves but for some reason emotionally I held on to the thoughts I had of her... thinking by forgiving her it was saying what she has said and continues to say about me is okay... Today I no longer care, they are lies and I have no need to prove her wrong... the truth will come out and it won't even be by me.
It was like when my ex step mother Ruth was abusive physically and emotionally to me and my sisters... when I forgave her and moved on, I no longer wanted to get revenge on her for the pain she caused me, I knew that it would come, I didn't wish it and I wanted no part in it... that is how I am feeling about that woman today... It was difficult for me to realize my part in this for the past couple of years, by holding on to her, I was drawing all her negativity and lack of self worth to me...
I always thought I was so good at forgiving people, until she became a part of my life... and I took on that mentality that since she had wronged me and lied about me... I had a right to defend myself and prove to her that she was wrong... who cares what she thinks of me, she isn't going to change her mind about me, she wants to dislike me and there is nothing I can do or say to change that, I can only change my mind... which I have done...
Although I don't need or want certain people in my life that have hurt me greatly... I choose to forgive them and have compassion for them even. If I could not forgive these people, who am I to expect this for myself? ... I am sure I have hurt someone a long the way in my life, I don't think I have done it on purpose but indirectly I am sure I have... I would hope that I could be forgiven too... I know some people will say or think that when someone goes out of their way to hurt you, that it's harder to let that go, I think it is needed even more then... It honestly has brought about a path of freedom I forgot even existed and taught me that forgiveness is a form of love and a choice I make...
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Your article put me in a good mood again, Launna!
ReplyDeleteSo inspirational. Your words truly have the power to help others, keep up the great work!
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Well written Launna. Forgiveness is a form of freedom and peace of mind. Take care. xo
ReplyDeleteI can totally relate with what you've said at the first paragraph. Sometimes, I mean most of the times, I am like that. I have so much in my mind that when I began to write it down, I tend to forget what was the main point that I wrote about. Anyways, with forgiving the woman who hurts you in the past is totally the right thing to do. I have been hurt as well but when I learned to forget I began to feel good about myself, no grudges, no hatred, just pure love. Right now, I really don't mind those people who tried to bring me down, I'll just pray that they'll be able to have the peace of mind to realize that they are all wrong. :) Congrats Launna on finally found the courage to forgive. :) xx
ReplyDelete"You cherish your past, you accept the present and you dream for your future", and you chose to be free...
ReplyDeleteHi Launna, I am so happy for you. You have been set free by choosing the forgive the person and letting go of her and her negative actions against you. You will be mightily blessed and God's peace, joy and love will overflow from your heart.
ReplyDeleteI used to always try the easy path, even when it wasn't the right one. There is such freedom in forgiveness, definitely!
ReplyDeleteGreat, true, Words Launna! Again i am so happy to know you ♡
ReplyDeleteMuch love and lots of Hugs :)
The greatest asset that anyone can have is to forgive others, it is not easy, yet you to chose to do that. You have a brave and true heart.
ReplyDeleteThose are good purposes. Freedom and forgiveness... Great post!
ReplyDeleteThis is an eloquent and well-written blog post Launna, and you make lots of valid points. Sometimes we hold onto things that are actually detrimental, and it takes a conscious effort to break the habit. I'm really glad to hear you're taking control and determining your own path.
ReplyDeleteIt's always great to visit your blog and read your thoughts on things.
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forgiveness is definitely freeing yourself of the negativity and the energy sap that you might feel come over all of a sudden like a big, dark cloud of gloom. I am so happy you are past this point in your journey.
ReplyDeleteOh yes, you don't just KNOW what you need and want in life. You discover it along the way, through the things you experience and the mistakes you make. I'm happy to hear you feel you're on the right path now.
ReplyDeleteWe never know what we might learn. Sometimes, revelations come to us in the oddest ways. Be happy you are finding it out in your thoughts and writing. I hope you have a great week and things aren't as cold there..as they are here. Keep writing!
ReplyDeleteDear Launna, I'm so proud of your progresses!!
ReplyDeleteYou're working hand on yourself and get great results! And you are becoming an example for many other women that struggle like you!
I thnik that learn to forgive is one of the most hard thing to do in the life, I'm not good at all in forgiving, but luckily I'm loved by enough people to be very good in don't care about mean people, still I hope to learn how to forgive one day!
Keep on going like this, dear! :D
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Stay happy launna :)
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Hugs to you.
ReplyDeleteI had the same thing, forgiving a woman I didn't know who had hurt me...it took a long time. Sometimes these things simply need time and it is ok to not be there yet, it is a progression. In my experience as long as getting over it and forgiving is the goal, and we consciously keep that goal, the rest eventually falls into place. And then enough time passes and it just truly doesn't matter anymore. It is very liberating.
Launna, I'm in awe of you and of how much you're willing to work on yourself to be happy and the best version of you :) You have come so far and you continue to amaze me!
ReplyDeleteI know exactly how you felt while writing and it went into a different direction, that sometimes happens to me, too. I usually take a break then and write it all over again ;)
I am learning a lot from you, because I still have a long way to go when it comes to forgiving the people that have hurt me the most.
I'm so happy that you can finally let go and free yourself! Thank you so much for being so open and sharing this with us <3
Sending lots of love and many hugs to you,
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ReplyDeleteI hope you're on the right path, I've been working on my path as well. You know, it's hard... I'll pray for you, you're my light :)))
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Forgiveness liberates the soul and I'm happy you have taken that path. Wishing you a great day ahead!
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This goes with your previous post. Forgiveness brings peace. I hope you continue on that path.
ReplyDeleteFreedom, you always take it a step ahead. There's so much I have learnt from you Launna, you're an inspiration.
ReplyDeleteKeep up the great work.
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I'm beyond happy for you, Launna. I imagine how you must be feeling now that you forgave that person, and I'm sure you're feeling that freedom you talk about. What a huge step in the right direction, dear. Once again you showed how important is your commitment towards living a positive and peaceful life. So happy for you <3
ReplyDeleteForgiveness is the key,it helps one to have a piece of mind
ReplyDeleteI think it can be harder to forgive someone when they go out of their way to do something negative to us. It doesn't mean we can't forgive them, but it might take us a little longer to get there. It sounds like you have forgiven this woman and now I think the positive impact of that forgiveness will be very freeing. :)
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This is a great post, Launna. I try to keep in mind that I can't control what other people do or say. The only thing I can control is how I react to them. If she chooses to believe in lies and spread them to others, there's nothing you can do to stop her. You can control your own reaction which is to forgive her and even feel sorry for her. And you're right, being able to forgive someone and move on with your life is definitely a kind of freedom that you are granting to yourself.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you especially what you said in the first paragraph. I have so much to say or write and I can never get it to come out right. I'm working on it.
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me too I choose freedom =) freedom to fulfill my dream... freedom to express the real me =) thanks for the visit Launna =)
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Precious words about forgiveness! I'll try to keep them in mind :)
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Wow, I love the new design of your blog Launna. It is really pretty! Love the purple. You wrote a beautiful article to. Forgiveness is really important in live to move further!
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I totally agree!♥ Forgiveness helps us heal and grow emotionally. Sometimes forgiving people can be the hardest thing ever, but it's definitely worth it!♥
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I think it's great that you were able to see such a positive effect for forgiving her just in one week! I am so sorry to hear about how your stepmother treated you, too. Sending you hugs!!
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Great post Launna! I'm so happy to read you're moving on! Great new lay-out as well! What a great start for the new year!
ReplyDeleteThis life is too short to be surrounded by negativity, eh?
ReplyDeleteYou humble me, Launna and enlightens me on how I should let go my own resentments. You're right, if I don't do the same for others then how can I expect the same kindness from them? You've been through so much and yet you persevered and didn't let drown yourself in self pity, it's admirable my friend.
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Forgiving is allowing yourself to be open to the present and that is such a wonderful gift to give to yourself. Very well said Launna, it is such a freeing feeling unlike any other!
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Well written doll, I'm so happy for you!!!!!!!
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I think we need to write about our feelings. It purifies us.
ReplyDeleteI know how to many ideas feels. Could sound awsome to be inspired by everything, but most time they just overthrow each other, since I'm doing one thing and my heart is already somewhere else.
ReplyDeleteI also don't usually hold anything against anyone, since it's so tiring and downbringing. For me best way to express my feelings turned out to be writting lyrics, you can really go deep or say it very simple :)
Stay possitive, it's the best aspiration you can give to others <3
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Launna I don't think I am as strong as you are. It needs a good and kind heart to forgive one who did wrong to you. You are really a sweetheart and that's why I respect you a lot!! Wish a very happy new year my dear <3
ReplyDeleteIt is easy to forgive may b bt not forget .. i still remember a so called best friend of mine whom I had to say goodbye to and never looked back.. even she never bothered since then.. although m happy i let her go i still miss her sometimes which is so strange.. i know she is happy without me and its ok... what u write always spills positivity and i really like that... wish u a lovely weekend Launna ♥
ReplyDeleteSo pleased to see you've written this "Although I have a long road ahead of me, I am now on the right path..."
ReplyDeleteKeep following the right path, it just makes good sense.
All the best Jan
Exactly, forgiveness is huge. It frees your soul of ill-will and moving on. Remember what matters most and forget and move forward with the new knowledge and new power you have.
ReplyDeleteCheers to your freedom, Launna. Enjoy this long overdue gift to yourself. :)
ReplyDeleteKeep spreading the love.
I have people in my life very much like your ex step mother Ruth.. where your resolve, ability to forgive and move on, and much more is challenged and threatened. I am so glad you have the strength the rise above!! - http://www.domesticgeekgirl.com
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't happen often but sometimes I write post that I delete later. I write disjointed things often and I have to ask to people to correct me. I think that you are still good at forgiven people even you have been not bad with your ex-step mother, you are in the right way.
ReplyDeleteLot of hugs.
Great post Launna!!kiss
ReplyDeleteThe post you just read of mine was going in a rambling direction. Just so happens that the browser crashed and I lost a good bit of it that hadn’t saved. I thought it was really good and so I tried to recapture it. That’s so hard to do. It turned out better than what I started with though for a moment I was too frustrated to continue writing. I had to inhale and exhale peace ;-) I don’t know what word you’ve chosen but I bet it along the lines of how you’ve come to the conclusion to deal with situation. Is it freedom? I’ll wait…. ;-)
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine you ever hurting anyone, Launna. You are one of the sweetest people I know. Good for you for being able to forgive the woman. You are a better person because of it.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more with the other ladies here, Launna! To forgive people who hurt us needs a lot of inner power and you have such an inspiring and powerful personality, Launna!
ReplyDeleteHave a wonderful weekend, dear!
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Good girl. Forgiving her freed you from all of those negative feelings that were holding you back like a weight chained to the leg of an eagle. Now, you can soar!
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That's exactly how I view people like that too, so misery loves company. Hard as it is to do, forgiveness actually makes us feel lighter. Freeing too. Tell me about those disjointed write ups, haha. Happens to me every once in a while too but for the most part once I start writing, it's hard for me to stop. In fact I'm working on that, trying to make my posts shorter.
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Forgiveness is so important, Launna, and I agree with Idu, it does make us feel lighter and is very freeing. Thank you so much for sharing this. It is pretty cold here in Montreal, and thankfully I love the winter; however, a couple of days it was even cold for me! :)
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Dear Launna, I think you are too good. You are able to forgive when other people can't. Have a wonderful week!
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Forgiveness is freeing. I can't handle the weight of what it feels like when injustice or being wronged comes about, so I let it go. It's better for me, and that's what I have to care about. :)
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I am glad you are happy with the choices you've made. They've been well thought out and done for all the right reasons.
ReplyDeleteIt shows what a wonderful person you are to always be working on forgiveness and moving forward!
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